Hobbying Basics

Before meeting with a provider for the first time, keep in mind that she will likely not discuss the specific services that she provides and you should not expect her to. Do your research to find out what others have had to say about what she will and will not do and make your choice accordingly, always remembering that while reviews might be accurate, your mileage may vary (YMMV) is the rule of thumb and that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.

You should also remember that politeness, discretion, and courtesy will go a long way and that you should treat others how you yourself would like to be treated. This may sound obvious but you can really distinguish yourself from many others by simply being respectful.

Setting Up an Appointment

Many providers may question you about any of the following and it is not unusual for a provider to request a referral from another known provider stating that they’ve seen you and that you are a good gentleman. This should not be taken as an insult, merely as a way for them to make sure you are who you say you are and that you aren’t a psycho. If you don’t have a referral from a well-known provider the escort may require information from you that will verify your identity. It is entirely possible that a provider may ask you where you work, where you live, and/or your phone number. There are a number of verification services which, for a cost, allow you to register your data in an anonymous way and to speed up verification with providers significantly. Some providers may only see you if you are a member of one of these services so do your research to determine whether becoming a member is worth it for you. Some of the better known verification sites are:date-check, preferred411.com, and RS2K.

When you talk to her on the phone, or correspond with her through email, be honest and friendly and tell her where you heard about her and the date and time you had in mind to see her. You should also use this time to let her know a bit about yourself and to find out if you think you’ll be compatible with her—For the most part, if you hit it off on the phone, you’ll have a good time with her in person. Try not to be pushy with her and remember to treat her like you would any other girl that you are interested in and you should be able to move to the next stage. Remember that it is rude to ask her about specific services that she provides and that she may hang up on you if you do so. You are paying for her time and anything that happens during that time will depend on the chemistry between two consulting adults. If you have any requests about clothing you’d like her to wear or anything not explicitly sexual, use your own discretion but it is usually okay to ask at this point.

Now that you’ve made it past the first phone/email screening process, it’s time for the big day! There are a couple of things you should keep in mind to make sure that your appointment is a big success for both you and the provider. To start with, you should be freshly showered, preferably groomed (down there), and nicely dressed. Keep in mind that she has probably invested a significant amount of time in looking, feeling, smelling, and tasting good for you so you should reciprocate. You should greet her in a confident manner and if it seems alright, with a friendly hug as well.

If you have never seen the provider before and especially if she is a provider who has a softer screening process, she may ask to see your i.d. when you arrive to verify that you are who you say you are. Until you are BOTH comfortably naked, it is advisable that you don’t speak about specific services.

If she has asked to see your i.d etc.., she will wait until she’s comfortable that you are who you say you are and then ask you for the money up front. Whether she asks for the money or not, you should give it to her as soon as you can. Many hobbyists prefer leaving the money in an unsealed white envelope on the dresser but others will tell you that you should give it to her directly. However you choose to do this, just keep in mind that money is expected up front and in a way that easily facilitates the transaction. Credit Cards may be used with agencies and some independent providers but for obvious reasons you should use your own discretion. After you’ve taken care of the “admin” stuff, she will then probably excuse herself to go to the washroom and tell you to get comfortable.

When she gets back, you will probably have a bit of small talk before things become hotter. She may ask you what you like at this point and it is a good opportunity for you to explain your likes and dislikes and for her to tell you her limits. If she says “no” to something then you should respect that and not be unreasonably pushy.

If you’ve never seen any reviews on the provider, then the next part will be entirely YMMV but you should now feel confident enough to ask if she will provide you with the specific things you like

In order to boost the community and share your experiences with others, you should write a review of the experience you’ve just had. If you had a good experience then other hobbyists will thank you for your work in the field and the provider you review will benefit from increased business. If you had a bad experience you should also post a review so that other hobbyists can benefit from your report. As you can probably tell by now, the more reviews written, the easier it is for you to make the right appointment with the right provider.

Finally, many hobbyists will tip a provider if they have had an exceptional time with her and plan on seeing her again. Note that tips aren’t expected and that you shouldn’t feel obligated to tip ever.