What you don't have a life so this is what you do is try and get providers like this give me a break. This is funny I see you tryed to email me to come see you. Your nuts are you that money hungry that you don't have much clients.

It's so obvious to everyone here that AsianHarmony is posting under various handles...how do you stay in business?

can we just ignore her and get freaky?

LOL, sounds good. Just emailed a complaint to support about her.

On to your original question, I suppose I'm a bit of a womanizer. I find myself attracted to all types of women but generally within the 30 to 40 age range and thin to medium build. Not much of a boob man although I appreciate a nice rack and I do love butts!

GFE or PSE experience?

For me PSE all the way...depending on what you mean by that.

Tell us! What kind do you like Amber??? (guys and/or girls...)

i was hoping you guys would tell me the difference between the two.

Geez, I don't really consider myself bi but not to say i wouldn't dabble in the area. I do have an attraction to some women. I quess i like those who are alot like me. Not spinner types, a little meat on their bones, not much of an ass girl but long legs and breasts are a turn on. I love hair, it doesn't have to be long but well cared for.

I would consider myself a GFE with PSE characteristics. I like to enjoy myself and have been known to get lost in the moment.

ohh i just reread your post Madman, i will get back to the male qualities later.

its your turn.

The def'n of PSE was debated a lot in this thread for a month or so:
http://www.naughtyreviews.com/forum/hobbyist-hangout/defining-the-pse

To quote High_Roller:
• DFK--I think this one goes without saying.

• BBBJDTCIM/COF--When I pay the extra for a PSE I expect to be able to dump my load anywhere and I also expect to be able to put my cock in nice and deep!

• DATY69—along with a healthy serving of face fucking.

• DIGITS—front and back!

• GREEK—In multiple positions and complete with light spanking and hair pulling.

• Toys—not really my thing but those should definitely be on the menu as well.

The above for me are obligatory components of a PSE time, but equally important is the attitude of the provider in question. For a provider to be a real PSE, she has to love all things sex. She should be just as in to getting her brains fucked out as I am! She should also be willing to dress the part whether that means Little Red Riding Hood, Girl Next Door or French Maid.

French maid you say?

Ok so i think i described myself right. Great definition.

As for gentleman, the physical attraction is to the tall (over six feet) and big. I quess i always looked for someone with the size of my grandfather.

Personality, well i am a very versitile girl, i like the bad boys and the shy quiet ones. But i tend to become attached to the ones who have it all in the same package.

The late twenty, early thirty boys are a lot of fun to play with but i like my men over 40 and ready to explore and take me on an exploration.

Honestly the size and shape doesnt matter much its there personality and attitude for one. There playfulness and affection that keeps me coming back.I also really enjoy one who provides DATY which is a fetish of mine. Also if you call a provider and she answers the phone with a stern hard attitude, that is a definate no sell for me. If one answers with a lively friendly attitude, that is the one i will go for every time.

With out a personal attraction how would you know about anything else?

Im not understanding the reply.

There must first be a physical attraction.

Its easy to say it doesn't matter what someone looks like when it comes to attraction but there is no way that can be true. There first has to be a physical attraction which makes the other person catch your eye and then maybe their personality can win over.

So what kind of personality wins with you over looks?

I think what he's trying to say is that if the woman has the right attitude, that can make her attractive to him. Sometimes a woman you see in a photo who is classically "ugly" becomes a real beauty when you get to know her a bit. Sorry to put words into your mouth jpt but I'm assuming that's what you were getting at.

I totally agree. Beauty may get you in the door but there has to be a personality to bring you back.

I have met some people who could not see the beauty in themselves beyond the skin, and to me their personalitys made them the most gorgeous people in the world. But i have also seen beautiful people who are ugly to the bone.

In the hobby you can get a certain feel of someones personalilty through messaging or phone conversations which has peaked my curiosity for a few people. But... again.... with out the looks they never would of contacted me in the first place.

u do know real porn stars are tested every 3-4 weeks right? so if you want all that are you prepared to bring your clean paperwork to your PSE appointment if the provider does?

just saying and there are many different forms of porn so each provider should define her own definition, too many guys just see PSE and just think because all they watch are anal gang bangs and gagging porn that all providers enjoy that. Porn performers are built different then the common escort too many throwing that PSE around without defining it which can lead to disappointment which leads to no repeats so clearly define what your PSE is if you offer it

Yeah, that's why I quoted HungWell's thread. I think it's helpful for getting everyone on the same page. I know that's what I look for in a PSE anyway.

Every man has his own taste in a woman. In the hobby i really don't care if she is a muture woman, or a young woman. I don't care if she is black or white. I just like the freaks. I like women that are into threesomes, four somes, DP, Gangbangs, enjoy having a train run on them. Ladies that enjoy toys are a plus. BBBJ is a must. Recent fun time i had with a provider. I brought a male friend in the hobby and she brought another provider with her. We all used the same bed at the same time. Had both ladies one at a time, had them both at the same time. The ladies had both of us men at the same time. Took turns. Good times by all..

Its been a while since I've been on here. Glad to see they now have area specific forums. I thought I would weigh in my own opinion and see what people think.

Maybe I'm a different kind of person as far as this goes. My personality really doesn't lead me to selecting multiple providers and having different ones on a regular basis. That is moreso because 1. I am insainly picky on who I will and who I won't see. 2. I spend a VERY LONG time researching the provider and know just about everything this is to know about her before emailing or calling that first time. but mainly, I'm not comfortable around people to begin with, so building a comfort level is VERY important to me.

My Criteria is this and is in no particular order, just how it came to mind.

1. The provider must not be blonde.
2. The provider must not have a lot of tats (I prefer none, but something small and not very noticable wouldn't make much of a difference)
3. The provider should be willing to communicate, even during times we aren't together. (This is VERY hard to find, but also has to do with building that comfort level for me as well as building up the anticipation for the next time we are together) This is also what "Girlfriend" Experience means to me.
4. She must be attractive to me. This is hard to define as my tastes vary from the very thin to moderately thick. Notice I said thick, not fat. Too many providers I see use the term thick and I see fat. There's a HUGE difference to me. Going based on the 5'6" preference, I would say no more than around 160 lbs give or take a little.
5. The provider must be significantly shorter than I am. I prefer 5'6" or shorter although I have seen people who were 5'8" and taller, but its definately not my preference.
6. The provider MUST be responsive. Meaning, once the comfort level is established, I can be quite the freak, thus my name, RUFreaky, which is my question to anyone I would get involved with whether they're a provider or not. So I'm looking for more yes's than no's as far as what is available and open and a willingness to discuss it openly. Which obviously requires a comfort level on the providers part as well. Then through all the discussion, not just to do it, but want to do it, whatever it may be and be able to show or at least give the appearance that they want to.
7. The provider must also want to get there. I've never been the type of person, whether with a provider or not, to just care about myself. She must want the O equally as much as I do or more. If I don't care if she gets there, then there is something wrong and I will not repeat. There are some that don't care about themselves in this fashion and in that case, I probably will not see her again. I get more out of the actions and reactions of the person I'm with than I do from merely blowing a load. If I just wanted to blow a load I can sit home and masturbate.
8. The provider must of a sense of maturity about her. This is hard to describe. I just know it when I see it. Which is also why I will end up booking with someone between 30-45 which is also the age range I look for in a relationship.
9. The provider should not talk about other men in her life, unless she is a married provider with full knowledge and approval from her husband. Then I don't mind that so much because it is with the full understanding that HE is the priority in her life and should be and I am the "boyfriend experience" Ahhhh. Yes. that is what its about for me. It's not just, hey I'm horny guy and the quickest way to get some is to look up a provider on whim. For me, its the feeling of being connected, whether it be real or just for the money.... The way I look at it is, I can either go to a bar and spend 200 on drinks and dancing and trying to get to know some chick there that just might look at me and go, what the hell, I'm drunk enough, I'll fuck anyone.... Or I can take that money, allow the provider to buy something nice for herself or help to support her in that way as she sees fit in her life and have a good time while I'm at it. Then again, I hate public places and most people, especially asshole men, just get on my nerves.
10. The provider must have good reviews. A bad review is understandable because you can't possibly please everyone, but if there are more bad reviews than good reviews, I won't even bother. At most, I would say about a 1:20 ratio of bad to good. Mixed reviews kind of scare me.

Lastly, I really like a provider that has the open-mindedness that it really isn't all business. My last provider, in another state, and I became VERY good friends. I desgined her website, registered her domain name and maintained her web site. I also became her website photographer with the help of her husband. Her husband and I also became friends and that was actually a good thing for him. Being the husband of a provider, you really can't talk about her business with just anyone. I became the person he could come to and discuss it openly without the feeling of being judged. I knew them both on a real name basis, although, at first he was not comfortable with that, but when you do things outside of the client/provider realm, it just slips out. So it was purely by accident that I first learned her name, but its ok really, because I'm a VERY private person and your information is safe with me always! I have also been to their home, installed the network for her husbands home business and connected all the PC's together. All on my own dime... Ok, well, there was payment for my services just as there is payment for her services, but sometimes a mutual exchange of services is good enough. Ok ok, I do understand that THIS type of client/provider relationship is VERY rare in this business, so I don't expect it. It's nice if it happens, but I most certainly don't go in with the expectation that it will.

I probably have more thought in there somewhere, but its late and I've got to get some sleep for my date tomorrow. Its been over a year for me now and have done all the research on this particular provider and actually getting quite excited. Hopefully she'll be as good for me as what her reviews show her to be.

Thanks if you read it all. I guess I just felt like talking tonight.

Take Care,

RJ

Nice post RJ. I agree with your points completely. It's much more worthwhile to take the time and pick out the right provider. We all have different tastes and one guys 10 is another guys 6. I especially agree about there being a difference between thick and fat which is often blurred by fat providers advertising that they are thick. The providers on this board would be well advised to read your advice as I think what you look for is what most of us look for as well...honesty and a good open-minded attitude.

Thanks. Well, my date went well the other night. She definatley matches what all the reviews say about her. So I setup another date for Tuesday. I'm still not in that "feeling comfortable" stage yet. That take a bit longer for me. I've only ever been with one provider that I was instantly comfortable with and that was a long time ago. I like this one, but I want to find one more. The other potential I was looking at, I just found out is leaving the industry due to getting married, so now I'm lost for a 2nd.

You sound like you might have been around for a bit and also know a bit of what I look for.. Would you have any recommendations?

Akron or Cleveland area. Actually would be nice to find one near Akron/Canton too. Yet someone I know I can trust. Well, building that trust takes a while I know. Anyway, I'm just babbling.

Take Care,

RJ

Jholmes, i know you are not going to kiss and tell he he he.

You seem like the perfect gentleman Rj. If i knew a name that measured up to your standards i wouldn't hesitate.

Just follow those reviews. But try to find reviews posted on a few sites, don't just go by TER there are so many imposters and self reviewers, sometimes they can look good but when you check other review sites you have something to compare them too.
Beware of the same reviewers posting on different sites look for the reviews that are posted by guys who have posted reviews on a few different ladies and not just the one your researching.

Thanks for the compliment. I do try. I suppose part of my problem is that I use this as a substitute for a real relationship when one is lacking such as right now. So, why would I treat the lady any differently than one that I'm seriously pursuing a relationship with? I don't see why it always has to be about the man's satisfaction. See, maybe I'm just different than most in this fashion. I actually get more personal pleasure and satisfaction by pleasing the woman I'm with. Yes dear, I would gladly massage your back, neck, arms, legs, especially that inner thigh right there, oh yes, so close, but don't touch, not yet, too soon, wait, have patience, good things come to those who wait. oh yes, kiss her neck, nibble a bit, scraping my teeth, lightly, across her back. Does that feel good? Yes? Good. I want to make you feel good...... Sorry getting off track.... Point being... That is so much more satisfying than anything she could do to me.

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Yes, I pretty much followed your advice to a T when choosing this past Friday evening meeting. She was VERY WELL reviewed on multiple sites. I am looking at two others in the Akron/Canton area, but unfortunantly they're both blonde. That wouldn't matter all that much if everything else was on par, but I can't find any reviews for them. I have just seen their ads on backpage and one of them has been posting on backpage for over a year now, the other, only a couple months. Pictures and ad content has changed over that time. No Reviews = No way for me, so I'll just wait and see what happens. I'm in no hurry. I'm just starting things up with the one from Friday, so I'm in no hurry to find the other. I have a lot of exploring to do yet before considering a 2nd one.

Anyhow, I'm tired and going to bed. Its nearly 4am. UGH!

RJ