I "worked" on adult friend finder for years before advertising on any escort sites and the guys I met had many horror stories. Mostly, the photos were completely fake and when they met the girl she was nothing like what they expected.

Many guys said that I was the only "real" person who ever met up with them because most of time when they did get a girl to respond to their inquiries, she would set up a meeting and not show up.

Just be careful, a couple of guys did get into some dangerous situations, one was held hostage and robbed. I couldn't believe he was still meeting people online after that but then he did meet with me.

"too much drama" was the best case scenario in most cases, although a couple of guys bragged about their success meeting hot women wanting to screw, I actually didn't believe them because of the many many stories to the contrary.

Good Luck. Give it a shot. Be Careful.

Those adult dating sites are a waste of time and money. The one I joined had six real, active women for my area and about three hundred men. The rest of the "women" were fake profiles. Escorts.com was still around back then and it had twenty six escorts listed for my area and I saw five of them. Of course, I am in Indiana so YMMV.

There seem to be many attractive women here in the LA/OC and the Seattle area. Not all 10s but attractive women nonetheless. I'm using Tineye and finding about 1 in 3 seems to be using original photos.

What ever you do. Don't waste your time, or money on those sites.
most of the girls there are bots to begin with. You would do better watching
A porno

Plenty of ish we call one dating site lol

Yeah, the bots are stupid. They send you emails and try to carry on a conversation as though you wouldn't notice.

"you and I can have some fun."

Oh yeah? What kind?

"let's make time together."

WTF?

I've tried several and they're all the same. Maybe 30 to 40 women to pick from who have unrealistic demands and want you to jump through hoops. It doesn't matter how you portray yourself, you're not going to meet anyone except the occasional provider and lower end ones at that. Save your money.

I did talk to a woman who worked for AFF or similar, where it was her job to do the replies on the fake profiles the site set up to get the guys to pay up for messaging privileges. Of course the women are too fussy or don't show up. They don't exist.

Most "dating" sites are typically for people looking for a relationship, few people actually want to just have "casual encounters".

We read somewhere that nearly 50% of all relationships began "online" (implying dating sites). We know many people who met and are dating as a result of online dating sites.

In fact, in our day jobs as marketing consultants, we have worked for several well known sites, and we were compelled to sign non-disclosure agreements.

With respect to "casual encounter" most of what has already been said we have also observed for ourselves to be true.

Wise idea not to waste your time or $

As for swinger sites, well Alex has written extensively on his experience in our blog. Here is a link to his post.

http://flirtywife.com/blog--blo--tips-for-success-in-the-swinger-lifesty...

As usual, that is just our 4 cents

ok I been on them and still on..I have met alot of women on there,but if you have an SO and just want a fwb deal well eventually they get attached or want more..over the summer was dating this 24 year old had fun whent out etc well 2 months later she hates that im married even though she knew that from the get go..

So decided you know what ill stick with a married woman..guess what yup you guessed it..2months into it she wants to leave her husband and children..WTF? we just met...and there are alot of bots out there too..You can meet real people but it is time consuming answering pm on sites..

Down side of escorts are hey I wanna actually go out and have fun drinks etc,with that said you just got to do whats best for you..I limit answering email or pm..I have not been with an escort as of yet,well I take that back last year met a girl online we dated for a couple months..I just find out she does have clients..So yes escorts do date,but as far as calling an escort knowing she is one,well not yet..

So im being slective goin into this and trying to find someone in the dayton ohio area

wow that was alot lol

My limited experience is they're a waste of time and money. Nothing but fake profiles and links to get your to sign up for premium service.

We (especially my husband) are experts on the category (He and I have done some strategic consulting in the vertical some start-ups, some large, well known brands).

Some Facts:

1) Most female profiles are internal fakes, scams or bots. He had inside information that put the # of fake profiles at 9 of 10 on one site, and the industry average is 1 in 3.

2) Many "fake" profiles (term used loosely) have human like responses, and on one site, actualy employes a team of people to send messages to new account holders to get them to upgrade for communication priviledges.

3) The second largest problem with dating sites is the false or exaggerated information. Nearly 70% of all profiles contain false information... Nearly 2/3rd of female profiles contain false information about weight, or age and about 25% of all male accounts falsify marital status.

4) Most sites are built "upside down" as they encourage too much windowshopping with no meaningful way to narrow searches based on an individuals value system (He says value systems are the single largest determinant to a successful long-term relationship).

5) Results from dating sites (when done "efficiently") can be very promising, there are studies that suggest as much as 50% of all new introductions are as a result of an online dating site.

6) As others suggested, the time required to invest in the initial online introductions and sifting through the fakes is not only nearing an industry average of 10-12 hours per week, but takes a huge emotional toll on its users.

There you go... our 4 cents,.

Wow... this makes so much sense. I've surfed into a few of these sites and my experience has been pretty much the same for all of them. So long as I maintain a free membership, I get inundated with emails from women requesting to meet me - of course I can't see their profiles or reply to the messages so long as I maintain a free membership. Once I upgraded to a paid membership, those emails stop. I've surfed two sites extensively and have had precious few women reply to messages I've sent... in spite of the fact that I'm respectful, polite and reasonably attractive. I've postulated everything FlirtyChristine posted to be the case based on my experiences....now I have confirmation.
Thanks for confirming my suspicions.

I was divorced in 2008 and thought I would never want to date again but now I really would like to have a man in my life that really cares about me. My problem is I am on a couple of dating sites and more than once a gent has contacted me saying he saw my ad on Eros or BP and would like to meet. To be expected I know and then of course it would be a very rare individual that would stick around after he found out my occupation. Comes with the territory I guess.

think your bein a lil hard on yourself there..like i mentioned i met someone on the site we dated on and off for months..I kinda thought she might be aprovider..anyway long story short she was or is..we still dated want stop us was that she is an hour 45 min drive and she dances nghts and i work days..it got very hard..not every one is soo judgemental however I will say if you are on a dating site then yes it does take up some time..esp when your not 100 percent sure what you want or if youll be judged yourself..wnat ever happened to just meeting for a drink and talking lol..ok enough of my rant but good luck to you and your dating endevours

dating sites i am associated with is pof site.. there are some guys on there who seem nice.. but if they found out what i did? OMG crap would hit the fan.. i keep my friends separate from anyone knowing what i do.. less they know the better.. those who knew what i do ..think i quit years ago.. if they only knew what i do now.. well thats another story .. AFF is okay but not for me.. seniorpeoplemeet site is for the birds.. and well the list goes on..

JMO
SP

i think most guys in their 30s are open to the idea, your past the whole "im special" stage by then and even if you havent experienced it your
sure to have known friends devestated by a failed marriage or two. I have several friends who started hobbying just because they came to me whining
about how little they were getting laid now that they were single and i pointed them to a few ads on bp that i knew were legit.
I dont give any other help or advice however since i really do feel the "take your lumps" stage is important in the hobby.
i also dont feel like getting involved in someone elses hobby choices is a good idea for the most part.

*This is going to be a lengthy post. So sorry about this, but you've been warned*

Well do you mean DATING sites like Match & eHarmony or the "other" sites like AFF?

I've been on all 3 of the above mentioned sites; the first two (which I'd call "dating sites") seemed pretty legit with stuff although I really only had a connection with 2 girls (1, we met up and had a walk around town with her friend & she never talked to me again afterwards. The other I never even met with; she talked to me online a bunch and we became online buddies but that's it). They're pretty strict about their profiles too, so I don't think there's many bots & fakes on there, but there are plenty of non-responding profiles & ones that have been inactive for a long time (I think I got matched to someone who hadn't been on for over a year...)

With the "other" sites, AFF specifically, I may be the exception to what many people have said. Maybe its just my area or my age group, but I had the most success from there of any place online. There were TONS of inactive profiles on there you had to wade through, though. As a free member, you can't do jack on there except chat with the locals, which actually wasn't too bad. I find you meet more real people that way. I was an idiot and I paid for a bunch of months (on more than one occasion), so I got to see a lot of pictures, but IMO, I had more luck with the profiles that DIDN'T have pictures. I think most of the women on there, contrary to what their profiles may say, want a LTR out of things. Almost none of them that I've talked to or met with wanted FWB, at least not long-term.

Most surprisingly, I had a lot of success with MySpace back in its peak (before Facebook beat it to a pulp). I used to just search locally for single girls around my age who wanted male friends...I think I met up with about 3 or so of them in a period of about a year (with many more just being online friends).

So overall, I've met up with about 7 girls from online sites. I don't want to think about how much money I spent paying for "membership" on the sites here & there, but its gotta be at least $250+.

Phew. I think I need a nap after that story...