Well, before you even call a girl you should check her reviews and make sure she is known to perform that service - If you really want BBBJCIM, only choose girls who have been known to do that with other guys. That should take most of the anxiety out of asking for it...

If she uses a condom that means she prefers a condom and that's that.

Marauder is right.

It never hurts to ask as long as you do so in a respectful manner. You could always try: "I don't suppose you'd like to do that without the cover on, would you?". Marauder is right though, read reviews and zero in on those that are known to provide BBBJ and you'll have a better chance.

Alex here.

Personally, I think you guys go about this all wrong (IMHO)...

First, reviews are becoming less and less reliable, its only a matter of time till that avenue dries up as we know it. (too much potential legal consequences).

Therefore, reviews will become much more generic, and cover the basics, like was the provider on time, did she accurately represent her pictures, did you have a good time, was her fees appropriate for the services, would you see her again.

Forget mentioning specific acts, if LE continues to heat up, not a (smart) provider around will have those discussions until the SECOND or even THIRD date - period.

You guys are gonna need to be much more adept at working the "back channel" - which is why reviews will become VERY important.

We know a lot of lurkers don't like to write reviews, but, the back channel will someday be key to the hobby.

Here is how I see it workin: look up a girls latest reviews, select 4 or 5 guys (who also have adequate review history) and PM them about your specific request for the girl in question. The recipient of your request will have to deal with a decent about of PM requests, most of which will be strangers, so you have to be careful, the recipient will now have to check out the inquirer - has he authored recent reviews.

Lastly, for the final layer of protection, the ladies must have final approval over each individual review - because the last thing you want is for LE to mastermind a sting using reviews to sucker you in. So the ladies have to make certain all her reviews are authentic.

As for determining who is a scam, and who is not, well, it gets tougher, but a simple rule of thumb will be to stay away from ladies with too few or infrequent reviews.

Thats just how i see it.

IMHO I prefer a provider that insists on covered. That means she and I are both safer.

And I often do what FlirtyChrisine does too. Using PM is a good way to ask the questions of other hobbyists.

Good advice. Still, I understand and respect wanting everything to be covered as it's the safest way to play but I like oral too much. Heck, even if everything's covered you are still running a higher risk that if you were celibate.