.... What made him feel so special....I suspect you did.

But that is certainly no excuse to EVER drop by uninvited! (I am assuming you do not have an established routine or otherwise forgot about an appointment) I really hate to bash hobbyists, but that is so far over the line that it boggles the mind. Only input I have is that you inform the gentlemen that you feel it best for all parties concerned if he found someone else. NEVER see him again, no matter how contrite he might appear.

Yeah, it's pretty hard to defend the hobbyist in this situation. The A** made a douche bag move by showing up uninvited. Very insensitive. Unforgivable?

That's kind of scary, he should of at least left a VM. or a text, something.
makes me wonder What's next ...
It's totally ok to tell him 'sorry can't see you anymore after that incident.

I agree he needs his walking papers, and he must need his balls cut in half because they have to be huge for a move like that.

He completely crossed the line. I would suggest that you never see him again as he could be trouble.

Happened to me too, fortunately only once.

And good I was outside anyway! He just pulled up and said "hey do you have time for a massage?"

I didn't even recognize him at first. He'd only seen me once before, like 2 months earlier.

I just told him no and he left. I think I wasn't very nice, rather short - never heard from him again.

But geez... what are people thinking? I want to make the room look nice, the bathroom superclean, light candles, have a shower, wear something nice etc... even if I DID have time that day just when he shows up I can't do all that with him sitting outside.

Dude has some serious balls. Gotta give him that.

You know how to fix this guy? Move to Chicago.

LOL.... Good one netdog. That's one way to get her to Illinois.

well let first say to Papadee and Netdog I will be in the Chicago area the end of May and about 3 weeks into June..... so if the "BIG DOGGIE'S" wanna play & show what they have email me..... what is the ole saying.... If you can't play with the big doogies keep you're puppy ass on the porch and as what happened to me the A** actually called tonite to say sorry and the ironic thing is he is from my hometown of south Chi-town...... needless to say I took a pass.... the sad thing is ....lost a great future BF...I guess I was not as smart as Lucy getting out of a pickle jam...But as Providers we also try to have a personal life and this A*** kinda of screwed things up.... Guess shit happens and maybe the future BF wasn't Mr. Right .....so the motto is NEXT!!!!!

Pardon my prying and being off topic but how did you lose him? Me thinks
A true Mr right won't try and change everything about you or judge you bc of your past/present if he found out.
one shouldn't have to hide themselves if it's their true love My.02

That is a HUGE no no in the hobby bizz, I HATE it when anyone shows up at my place unannounced. I have actually had friends and family stop over unannouced and I didn't answer the door even when they knew I was home. Then they call when they get home or leave and I say sure come on over. POINT being CALL FIRST!

Exactly, I do not even allow neighbors to "pop" in they all knnow to call first.... I have a catalog system that I use. Picture Collectors, NC, NS, Asshole, Prior Dates.... I think you all know where I filed him at.

Prior dates?

I am screwd, there is no future dates catagory, always a day late and a dollar short. (

Grrrr pic collectors ! Well I really don't mind as long as I don't see someone else using them, I never send nude or ones with my face.
The neighbor thing with me is mine are insane and want to know everything about our business so they just show up whenever it's annoying, we rent so they know the owner.
There went my possible incall

i once had a girl show up while my buddies and i were playing madden, other than that the way the guy acted seems odd.

Yeah. It's not just a "no no" in the hobby. It's generally thought of as RUDE.

smart girls only save the #s of the guys they DON'T want to see.

Anabangbang - Are you saying that I am dumb.....not a nice choice of words - If think every provider runs their business as they see suited for them - I don't think I am doing bad since I normally am booked 2 weeks in advance and I have never been busted.....

the prior dates folder would worry me, that is one of the reasons i dont like to deal with much personal info when i start a screening process and also why im always more than ready to disengage at the first whiff of an issue.

I don't ask or keep personal info. Mostly what fetish, cocktail choice, brand of cigar and what they expect during our date. I guess that is why they keep cuming back...

I don't think she was saying that your dumb, doing things your style is a good thing too.

I do save #'s including IP/ISP's of the bad ones
but I don't save it to my phone or pc as with anything info wise I use usb sticks for short term reference then destroy it.
LOL they come cheap on Ebay

peaceful soul said he was bummed that you didn't have a "future dates" category, but it looks like you only save the #'s of the bad guys.

thats smart.

I thought you only saved the numbers of the bad guys ana...i'm confused.

LOL read above..... Ana said she only saves #'s from bad ones.....Quote (smart girls only save the #s of the guys they DON'T want to see.) I only keep what is important brand name of cigars, cocktail choice, fetish, their favorite cologne for after the shower, stocking not stockings etc... Then have codes for others. Clients are impressed how I remember things.....

guys that i dont want to see are normally bad guys.

amsterdam had originally misunderstood me.
i was saying that the reason that she wouldn't have a "future dates" category in her phone is because smart girls only save the #s of bad guys, or guys they dont want to see"

Peaceful also said a day late and a dollar short after saying no future dates, could be implying not ready to play again yet ? idk just a guess.

Peaceful also said a day late and a dollar short after saying no future dates, could be implying not ready to play again yet ? idk just a guess.
I could be wrong.

midwest i have not run into this problem.......
the south a few times?
why do men think they can just show up? I suppose they are wither lonely or missing a few screws?????
what about the guys who dont want to leave but wont pay for extneded time????
and even better they say i want to be with you?
R U CRAZY i dont even know you ive seen you 3 times?! YIKES!!!!!!!!!!!

whats a lady to do?