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awwwwww man u guys are not gonna believe this shit!!! ok after reading a few post on this particular topic. I thought to myself "well that shit will never happen to me"! LOW AND FUCKING BEHOLD! what happens? I got totally BUSTED! First of all make sure u close out ALL ur tabs and windows on the internet. I was looking at some porn and i have an asian fetish. So she is pressing back back back on the tab and goes to the porn site i was looking at! Then to top it off. She finds the NR site sill up and running! i didnt sign out of it all the way so she seen all my post and what i have been up to for the past months! Trust me im sitting here laughing it up now cause im still in disbelief. But learning so much from u guys on here i kept my cool and explained what POSSIBLY could have happened while being on the internet and denying it ALL. So word to the wise (which i thought i was) jus dont use the pc at home discard all numbers u may have after usage clear ur history on the net and sign out of all applications! My lesson has been learned. And the funn this i i have not even been hobbying for months! Things to catch up to u if ur not careful.

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bboy1481 wrote:

awwwwww man u guys are not gonna believe this shit!!! ok after reading a few post on this particular topic. I thought to myself "well that shit will never happen to me"! LOW AND FUCKING BEHOLD! what happens? I got totally BUSTED! First of all make sure u close out ALL ur tabs and windows on the internet. I was looking at some porn and i have an asian fetish. So she is pressing back back back on the tab and goes to the porn site i was looking at! Then to top it off. She finds the NR site sill up and running! i didnt sign out of it all the way so she seen all my post and what i have been up to for the past months! Trust me im sitting here laughing it up now cause im still in disbelief. But learning so much from u guys on here i kept my cool and explained what POSSIBLY could have happened while being on the internet and denying it ALL. So word to the wise (which i thought i was) jus dont use the pc at home discard all numbers u may have after usage clear ur history on the net and sign out of all applications! My lesson has been learned. And the funn this i i have not even been hobbying for months! Things to catch up to u if ur not careful.

Um, it probably would be wise in this instance to get a different handle, because now that she knows this site as one you post to, and presumably knows your handle, pretty good chance that this will come up in your face again - whether you clear history or not. Pain to change handle, but in this case, might be prudent. I think I would be so paranoid as to have Support delist posts made under that handle. But that is just me. Good luck and watch out for that proverbial fryin pan.

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awwwwww man u guys are not gonna believe this shit!!! ok after reading a few post on this particular topic. I thought to myself "well that shit will never happen to me"! LOW AND FUCKING BEHOLD! what happens? I got totally BUSTED! First of all make sure u close out ALL ur tabs and windows on the internet. I was looking at some porn and i have an asian fetish. So she is pressing back back back on the tab and goes to the porn site i was looking at! Then to top it off. She finds the NR site sill up and running! i didnt sign out of it all the way so she seen all my post and what i have been up to for the past months! Trust me im sitting here laughing it up now cause im still in disbelief. But learning so much from u guys on here i kept my cool and explained what POSSIBLY could have happened while being on the internet and denying it ALL. So word to the wise (which i thought i was) jus dont use the pc at home discard all numbers u may have after usage clear ur history on the net and sign out of all applications! My lesson has been learned. And the funn this i i have not even been hobbying for months! Things to catch up to u if ur not careful.

Um, it probably would be wise in this instance to get a different handle, because now that she knows this site as one you post to, and presumably knows your handle, pretty good chance that this will come up in your face again - whether you clear history or not. Pain to change handle, but in this case, might be prudent. I think I would be so paranoid as to have Support delist posts made under that handle. But that is just me. Good luck and watch out for that proverbial fryin pan.

Very valid point there. Thanks for the advice.

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bboy1481 wrote:

awwwwww man u guys are not gonna believe this shit!!! ok after reading a few post on this particular topic. I thought to myself "well that shit will never happen to me"! LOW AND FUCKING BEHOLD! what happens? I got totally BUSTED! First of all make sure u close out ALL ur tabs and windows on the internet. I was looking at some porn and i have an asian fetish. So she is pressing back back back on the tab and goes to the porn site i was looking at! Then to top it off. She finds the NR site sill up and running! i didnt sign out of it all the way so she seen all my post and what i have been up to for the past months! Trust me im sitting here laughing it up now cause im still in disbelief. But learning so much from u guys on here i kept my cool and explained what POSSIBLY could have happened while being on the internet and denying it ALL. So word to the wise (which i thought i was) jus dont use the pc at home discard all numbers u may have after usage clear ur history on the net and sign out of all applications! My lesson has been learned. And the funn this i i have not even been hobbying for months! Things to catch up to u if ur not careful.

See this is what I hate about these newfangled browsers with all these "preferences" crap...how it remembers where you were and asks "do you want to restore session". It's just so unbelievably easy to get nailed by anyone in your house. It just makes me paranoid.

I've been using a browser that no one else in my place uses and not making that browser a desktop icon.

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RustleKrow wrote:
bboy1481 wrote:

awwwwww man u guys are not gonna believe this shit!!! ok after reading a few post on this particular topic. I thought to myself "well that shit will never happen to me"! LOW AND FUCKING BEHOLD! what happens? I got totally BUSTED! First of all make sure u close out ALL ur tabs and windows on the internet. I was looking at some porn and i have an asian fetish. So she is pressing back back back on the tab and goes to the porn site i was looking at! Then to top it off. She finds the NR site sill up and running! i didnt sign out of it all the way so she seen all my post and what i have been up to for the past months! Trust me im sitting here laughing it up now cause im still in disbelief. But learning so much from u guys on here i kept my cool and explained what POSSIBLY could have happened while being on the internet and denying it ALL. So word to the wise (which i thought i was) jus dont use the pc at home discard all numbers u may have after usage clear ur history on the net and sign out of all applications! My lesson has been learned. And the funn this i i have not even been hobbying for months! Things to catch up to u if ur not careful.

See this is what I hate about these newfangled browsers with all these "preferences" crap...how it remembers where you were and asks "do you want to restore session". It's just so unbelievably easy to get nailed by anyone in your house. It just makes me paranoid.

I've been using a browser that no one else in my place uses and not making that browser a desktop icon.

That's a pretty sensible solution but now fool proof. I do that and I also erase history after every session...sure I might occasionally forget to erase but since I'm using a browser that isn't that easy to find and my woman isn't exactly computer savvy, I figure I'm good to go.

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The new fangled browsers arent your problem, the old ones were actually more likely to get you caught since it was hard to erase all the info they stored, the new ones(IE8, Firefox3.5, Opera, and googles browser)all have a private surfing option that erases everything and doesnt leave you logged in when you close the browser.

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there are a few out there designed for private browsing too. google is your friend Smiling

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I use my iPad and take it with me everywhere I go.

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Hello every one. I love my I pad 2. Its easier to carry that around and my laptop very wide and it can be a hass at times....

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We had written a rather extensive blog post where we gathered all the excuse ideas we could find to help keep your extra curricular activities a secret.

Here is the link to that post:
http://flirtywife.com/blog--blo--excuse-ideas-so-you-can-hobby-more-with...

Just our 4 cents.

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moebius8 wrote:

there are a few out there designed for private browsing too. google is your friend Smiling

Google is actually your enemy the moment somebody finds out one of your handles if you use multiple sites. Especially if you use a similar handled on every site. It's also advised that you don't keep any records of any exchanges whether it be names or phone numbers, memorize that number long enough to get the call done.

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[quote=moebius8]lol yeah Smiling

Hello there,
I know you don't know me at all. But can you please see if you can find my ad in Florida for me? I know I contacted the admin about this. But i was looking for a hobbiest to and trying to find me. I had chosen you cas I see that you have been a lont time hobby. Ty sweets. My title would Tabathaluvsyou. Hugs

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Tabathaluvsyou wrote:

[quote=moebius8]lol yeah Smiling

Hello there,
I know you don't know me at all. But can you please see if you can find my ad in Florida for me? I know I contacted the admin about this. But i was looking for a hobbiest to and trying to find me. I had chosen you cas I see that you have been a lont time hobby. Ty sweets. My title would Tabathaluvsyou. Hugs

Hun the whole site is jacked up right now, I can't find anything current

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Bigbear wrote:

I don't think most hotels would take it. Credit cards are used to be able to track people down in case you owe additional charges. I have never tried it though.

The netspend prepaid visa has not failed in any of my hobbying, hotels, resturants anywhere

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I have a sure fire way to not get caught.........don't do it!!!

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tonyas1970 wrote:

Hun the whole site is jacked up right now, I can't find anything current

Ty for checking. I am back on sweets. Have a good night.

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mickeymike2959 wrote:

I have a sure fire way to not get caught.........don't do it!!!

...or find a spouse who's hobby-friendly so you don't have to go sneaking around, lying, covering your tracks, etc.....

Somehow, I'm thinking that suggestion will be gas on a fire. I guess I'm just really fortunate.

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I think that a SO who is hobby friendly would be rare and hard to find. Just my opinion though.

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I always go to incalls. No worries about a hotel bill.

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I don't think most hotels would take it. Credit cards are used to be able to track people down in case you owe additional charges. I have never tried it though.

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I read a story on a forum once don't know how true it is but here foes

A hobbyst is told by his wife that she has decided to spend the weekend at her mothers. The hobbyst checks his local hobby boards and reads several positive reviews about a new girl on CL, he checks the ad and no pics and its email only. He decides to take the chance and sets up the appointment for the weekend, he arrives at the hotel knocks on the door and the provider turns out to be his wife!!!

So my question is how many married providers are there that are hiding from their husband or SO???

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BigBilly wrote:

Hi Cracker. Just wondering how you get around the invoices that are sent to your home address . Whether it is a different account or not you'll still have a trail I'd imagine.

Go to Capitol one, they are 100% paperless; also there are mail boxes that look like street a address available at most "pack N mail" shops. Address will be something like 12345 Humptydumpty Lane Apt. 304; prepaid cell always dangerous & can be discovered, you can't keep running to office to hide it, might leave it in yur mail box, but better to have 1 business phone with 200+ numbers of business on it; then evidence is lost in the blur of offices, hardware stores, rental auto, auto-home-life insurance, stock brokers, hotel and restaurants, clothing stores, barber and hair style salons, also add a few legit massage places that do couple's massage; then take her a few times a year to keep it upfront. Then your providers are buried in salesmen and stock broker names.

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Great tips, I do everyone of those things. Prepaid cell from target, free gmail account just for the hobby. No perfume, lip stick removed before hoping in bed.

The one thing I did not see on the list that may help is I have a different name I use just for the hobby. This way if something ever did happen, say the SO finds the phone, turns it on, and it rings, well it looks like a wrong number if she is not asking for me.
Plus worst case scenario, escort goes stalker or extortionist, then if she shows up at my work, or approached me in public she screams at me using the wrong name, she looks crazy, and my life is not ruined. Now I am sure I am being way to paranoid, but i just like to cover my bases.

Now I am not gonna be the typical asshole and say my name is John, but I use a short easy name. Nick.

Having a hobbyist name can work sometimes but not with providers who verify by name or place of work.

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silverserfer wrote:

A couple of things that will help. First, use turn Private Browsing on whenever using you computer to either look at porn or look for escorts. 2. Deal in cash. Have a place you can stash you money. So, if you go to the supermarket one day, grab and extra $40 or $20, Next time you go to the ATM, do the same. Build up stash, that way there is not one large withdrawal. And if your SO finds your stash, you can say you were saving up for something special, a gift or something. - Then go buy her one. Cash in small amounts, even large amounts, is a l lot less incriminating than anything put on a credit card.

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I just wanna say I really enjoyed this thread. It was a rare opportunity to see the male minds grinding LOL. LOVE IT!

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terrev wrote:

I have the ultimate security system.

I am single.

I work for myself.

I have no romantic prospects.

Solves so many problems...lol...

well done!!

makes perfect sense!!

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MichelleinReno wrote:

I'm new here and I'm really enjoying the forum and I really have to add my two cents to this thread. To any hobbyist that are paraniod about runnning into their provider in public, relax. We are not paid to have sex with you as much as we are paid to ignore you in public. Besides why would any business woman want to risk losing out finacially just to out you? I live and work in Reno and I have a policy. If you are visiting from out of town make-up and perfume are a must. If you're local I'll just shower with a nice smelling but very gender neutral shower gel and I skip the blush, lipstick and anything else that might get you in trouble. The secret cell phone thing is a real good idea. While I NEVER call a client unless I'm responding to a message for me to do so I think too many providers like to "dial for dollars" when it's slow. That's not good and I wish it would stop. As far as debit cards go they can be used for hotels as long as the balance is large enough to cover any deposit amount (I used to be a hotel accounting clerk). Sometimes I have wondered if men that get caught by their SO's deep down really wanted to. I have a very nice incall location but I've had men insist that I see them in their home while their wife is away. 90% of the time I decline. I'd rather loose the money than to cause some woman to be hurt and humiliated even if she knows she's not putting out like her SO wants her too. No need to rub anyones nose in it though. Also, and I know this seems weird to most people, if I feel a foundation of freindship with a client I'll actually give advice on how to get and keep the homefires burning. I am a big fan of the happy marriage. Does that make me a dork?

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Michelle,

well said...

I have been working for just a few months, but do agree on giving advice to clients regarding the importance of keeping the homefires burning. I also would not want to rub any noses... life is hard enough!

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Jasmine_Cummings wrote:
BigBilly wrote:

Couldn't you solve the credit card problem by using a prepaid debit-type card?  I can't imagine that that would show up on a credit check would it?

fyi, they do, they require your ssn and are used to build credit for people with bad credit, who can not get a regular account.
All good ideas for staying under the radar, but us women do have a 6th sense when something is going on. may take a while to figure it out, but i think we eventually do. at least i did when i was cheated on. (no so now)

i have a greendot card i use for online payments and i never had to give a ss# of any kind.
your probably thinking of the low balance high interest cards offered by orchard and providian.

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@Jasmine - that seems wrong of them to confiscate money! Is there no legal recourse?