My sister - no way. She's just not mentally stable enough and has problems with boundaries already. Plus she has trouble keeping her mouth shut.

I don't have a daughter. That's a tricky one. It really depends a lot on character I guess.

Would I like my daughter to sell overpriced stuff nobody needs over the phone? Or throw bombs on civilians? If you have morals like mine, probably it's better not to have children.

In general I'd only recommend it to people who really got everything together, have a stable ego, are great with people and know very well how to say "no".

While we totally love and enjoy this hobby, we would not reccommend it to our sisters, daughters or even our close friends.

The reason why has a lot to do with how we started.
(The long story is on our blog at http://flirtywife.com/blog--blo--how-does-a-married-couple-decide-to-become-escorts-987.phtml)

The short story is that we were first very active (and very selective) swingers.

We were then "enticed" to spend a long evening with a couple that was not exactly on our radar.

But, their approach was very kind, very friendly, and we seriously considered their indecent proposal.

We accepted their offer as we fully narrowed the risks and down-side to something that was at least tolerable.

We then conducted nearly 3 months of research, interviewed other providers, talked to hobbyists, attended a couple mixers, got active on a couple local boards.

We talked for months and discussed what were our risks, what were the downsides, and we then began to develop a series of techniques and strategies to minimize downside risks to something we feel is not only acceptable, but results in attracting the best possible client who would truly enjoy what we offer and our uniqueness within the marketplace.

We never waiver on our "protocol" as our comfort, our own relationship and saftey are top priorities. We do not do this to earn a living as we have full-time day-jobs. We decided we would NEVER rely on the $ that comes from this hobby, and as such, we can always say "no-thank-you".

Since I am always in the watchful eye of my soul-mate, my lover and my protector, I always feel safe to totally let go, get loose and thoroughly enjoy our special friends knowing he has my back. I could never fathom having to have my guard up and I must applaud those ladies who meet with men solo.

Thus, I could NEVER in good conciense reccommend this hobby to any single women that I care for who are not already providers or who are not currently active / experienced swingers.

Just our 4 cents.

I used to work with my sister but shes too flighty to keep track of people like i do so it can't work.

i also have a teen daughter and NO WAY would I recommend that she do this as a job .
I do this so she doesnt have to consider it as an option down the road like I had to.

It's interesting to hear you say that and it sounds perfectly natural as well but when you say you do it so she doesn't have to aren't you saying that there is something wrong or unpleasant about what you do?

Now that is an interesting and very good question HR! Unfortunately, it is also a no-win situation for most providers of any service to answer.

Not sure about others, but I work my tail off in hopes my offspring will have an easier life. I honestly believe that a majority of parents, past and present, feel the same way. Yeah, I know there are exceptions. And I can not honestly answer how I would feel if my hypothetical daughter wanted to go into escorting, but I don't think my reaction would be favorable. And yes, my own hypocrisy is not lost on me....there are times when I miss the certainty of the transcendental haze of the early 70's.

I agree with you coyote. I've known many a waitress who's said she loved her job while at the same time hoping her daughter would be a Supreme Court judge. Service industry jobs can pay well but they are rarely what parents hope their children become.

I've been pushing my son to be a photographer since the day he was born

Pretty sure at least one poster on here is going to take issue with the double standard - but YEP, I think that is a fine choice for that young man. Clearly an opportunity for a father-son career if ever there was one!

I've always told my son there's nothing wrong making a living using your hands.

I wasn't suggesting that it's wrong or unpleasant

For clarification, we also do not think this type of work is "wrong" or "unpleasant" - no way, not at all.

We do think it is potentially a very dangerous job. (think deadliest catch)

If it were legal, and offered providers more safety features, we might be totally fine with even advocating it to certain women with select "proclivities".

However, till that day, the danger lurks in many shadows from physical harm & threats, potential legal tanglings and even financial or societal risks. There is also a certain inner emotional security (or maturity) that few ordinary women truly have, which is why we suggest experience in swinging was something of a pre-requisite.

Note: There may be other "pre-requisites" such as stripping or massage as some other ladies may attest how they were introduced. Also, in our humble opinion, most seasoned providers are not "ordinary", but are actually quite extra-ordinary.

Further we see this as not the best option for a life-long career choice, (but have no problem of other's choices, we just wouldn't advocate it to a loved one as a life-long career).

Our logic here is that the bulk of the market tends to favor ladies under 45. As a provider ages beyong 45, the consumer side of the market tends to begin to really thin out. There are of course numerous exceptions thus we are speaking in the broadest of generalities.

With that all said - we do see the hobby as a great side job. During ones early years as in working through college, and then afterward as an extra income on-the-side until she is ready to settle down and start her family.

Our primary caveat is: ONLY if / when the many dangerous risks mentioned above can be properly mitigated.

Just our 4 cents,

Those that have been around here for the past year, know that while Alex and/or Christine and I can agree in principle we rarely agree on specifics/substance. However, in this instance - the response above was one of the best I have read. Clearly I was wrong when I said it was a no-win question for providers.

Every time I hear about the "risk" for the provider, I can only shake my head about all the people who drive cars, especially in a country where it's so easy to get a license.

I feel at more risk on my way to an outcall than when I actually am in a hotel room with a stranger.

@LuciaMelena

Hun, you are very right, "risks" come in all shapes and sizes - and who knows what the real possibilities of encountering some of the risks associated with the hobby really are, as it's such an "underground" industry.

There are risks of accident (like when driving a car) and ways to minimize risk (such as not standing next to the only tree visible during an intense thunder storm). Doing things to reduce ones exposure to certain types of incidents converts it to a calculated risk.

Every person on the face of this planet accepts that there are risks in their lives - and if we don't, then we are either foolish or numb. Many of lifes risks go by us virtually unknown, and if you concentrated all your mental energy assessing each risk someone would face in a single day, you'd probably go mad. (Or you work for an insurance company - hee hee)

That said, we looked at the risks that could easily be avoided by just modifying how and what we do (just as im sure you have done).

In the end, it's all about perception of comfort.

We "feel" comfortable now that we have managed our exposure to certain types of risks. Of course, driving in some cities could totally eliminate and expose us to entirely new, perhaps even more severe risks.

And as the healthy individuals you and I are ... we accept that possibility too

Just more of our 4 cents

No i wouldn't. I would advise them to make better decisions regarding furthering their educationa and obtaining something that would allow them to not have to resort to it. But i think if you have fun like myself then maybe you should

No i wouldn't. I would advise them to make better decisions regarding furthering their educationa and obtaining something that would allow them to not have to resort to it. But i think if you have fun like myself then maybe you should

sorry i posted twice on accident

I would never recommend it to anyone.
u need to have thick skin.

ex
client see ur ad sees price the call
client ask u price again u tell them
then client insults you.

how often have u been insulted
in your regular job?
over time it can get to you.
most girls dont last 3 to 6 months do to the simple fact their are
1000 bad men for every good 1 ive found in this business. not everyone can take it.
i even get solicited at the chiropractor office i work at when im wearing scrubs and jacket???

but thats just my statistics...

Wow, guess you don't like me much then do you? 1000 to 1 odds are pretty steep.

Nievia, you could be wearing a burlap sack, no make up and I bet you'd still get hit on anywhere you go
It's the aura given off, some women have that, some don't.

You are not the only one with the chiropractor patients over stepping boundaries .
I think it's everywhere bc I have the same issue once in awhile at work.
I don't get mad, I get confused LOL

Since most of us like to look F-I-N-E all the time
Men can't help themselves.
Maybe they have a medical professional fetish within
I know, I know O.T.

I totally understand, if I did this solo, or had to rely on it as my primary income, I don't think I would last 6 months.

I am pretty thick skinned, but your right, there are a lot of assholes.

Thank god that my hubby deals with about 90% of the scum, and we see plently of it.

In fact, I was gonna share some shit we've seen in another thread, but, on second thought our general "rule of thumb" is to keep our venting amongst ourselves.

We might rethink that as we develop a commaraderie amongs those here on the board

Thank you for sharing and venting, good to know we are not the only ones.

the main reason I wouldnt let my daughter do this is bc of clients like the last reviewer I had LOL she'd hunt him down and beat him to a pulp for that.
That's what happens for me being nice I guess.

Watch out boys!!!
I'll be shorting the clock, up selling and demanding tips from you,
oh and I don't deliver as promised either
this is why I have had the same name/info for so many years (14-15 to be exact LOL

Well I have to do something right. I'm NEVER getting insulted.

I think it helps not to have my phone number anywhere... not accepting short notice appts, and to have ads and a website that gives people an idea of what I do (and what I don't).

If mine were anymore detailed, it would be considered an encyclopedia reference site.
People like that regular of mine are generally un happy in all aspects of their lives.
Can't fix them, they have to do it themselves right.

HW

no reason to not like u uve never done anything to me
you might be 1 of 1000