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hornyguy85032:

I have a number of comments in response to your post. Please do not take these as criticisms or insults. These are all possible issues that you should consider in order to achieve a more enjoyable experience with the ladies.

1, You clearly want a true GFE experience, with passion, romance, desire and interaction with your companion. To achieve that you need to bring something of yourself to the encounter.

• Cleanliness - freashly showered and shaved, fingernails and toenails nails cut short and smoothed, teeth brushed and breath clean, clean clothes, no cologne or aftershave, no cigarette or cigar smoke unless you are 100% sure that she is a smoker (and even then I recommend not)
• If you are having her come to your place, have condoms and lube. Don't expect her to bring her own, even though she will probably bring some. Have baaby wipes near the bed.
• Toys - if you like toy play, always bring new, unopened toys to a first encounter. Don' expect her to have the kinds of toys that you like. Then leave them with her so they will be there when you return - if the encounter was good.
• Incalls - If you are gong to her place, be respectful of her time. Do not arrive early or late. Call if you are going to be late. If you have allergies to animals, such as cats or dogs, tell her in advance. If you have phobias, such as to snakes or spiders, tell her.
• Do not ask for extra time at the very end - if you think you want extra time, ask for it early on so she can make a call to her driver if necessary or to the next client to delay that appointment.
• Always have the donation prepared in the way that it was requested - in a envelope or not, placed where it was asked for. Try to remember to place it somewhere where she can see it, rather than hand it to her. Never forget to give it.
• As my mother taught me 45 years ago, "Ladies Come First". Talk with her about mutual pleasuring, about DATY, about what arouses her and brings her to a climax. Give her the Boy Friend Experience and you wll get the Girl Friend Experience. (Now, if she says "I usually need 45 minutes of DATY and then I need double penetraton using one vibrator in my ass and either a cock or two or three fingers in my pussy in order to climax." you might want to ask if you can extend your one hour session to 90 minutes or 2 hours. Or you could say "Me first tonight"

You said "I have only meet a couple of providers that throw everything they got into it. The most amazing woman/provider I have ever meet was Aulluriana. She did not just spread her legs and take my money. She acted as if she went to a bar and pick me only and wanted me very badly."

2. You have found two GFE providers in six months? Great! Keep going through the reviews, and go back to the ones that you have already seen. The more often you see a GFE provider, the better the encounters become.

3. You do not mention what age you are or what age of provider you have been seeing. In general, my experience is that older providers tend to be better at providing a GFE experience than younger providers. It is a generalization, and there are exceptions. Someone once told me that the ideal age of a provider is to take your own age and divide by 2, and then add 9. So if you are 30, see someone who is 24. If you are 40, see someone who is 29. If you are 50, see someone who is 34. If you are 62, see someone who is 40.

I ignore those guidelines all the time.

There are plenty of excellent providers in Phoenix. So many in fact that I find myself half broke most of the time. But that's another story. So, two good ones out of six. I see you've been reading BP. That's real chancey but there are some really good providers there as well as some not so good. Read all the boards about some you might like to be with and compare what they have to say. I can name 20 on one hand who are excellent. That was a little subtle humor. I also sense you're feeling a little sorry for yourself with a touch of anger thrown in there over your situation in life. If that's the case I recommend taking a step back and observing yourself in an objective manner. Perhaps hobbying is not the best thing for you right now. If you've recently split with your ex and you're lonely then you might be looking for a substitute. Personally, I'd lay off for awhile...stay away from the hobby. You can't buy love and that may be what you're looking for..be honest with yourself. You'll get your heart broke some more if that's the case. Many providers are very empathetic and good souls. I haven't met one who wasn't. Whatever you decide to do...relax and chill out a little. You can't get upset with someone because of the choice you made in a provider. They don't get to choose you like you do them, so cut them some slack. Write an honest review if you really liked them or if you found some faults in them. Whatever. Just don't be too hard on them because regardless how you think you were treated...they are real people and they don't exist for us. They're just trying to make it like the rest of us. And if you feel the encounter is not clicking the way you'd like it to..after you've left a donation for her time, just leave in a respectable manner and feel good about having learned how to deal with a new life experience. Then go home, get plastered, call your ex wife and tell her you're sorry for all the things that happened to cause the break up...then some more bullshit and hang up the phone nicely. Or don't do any of those things...hell, I don't know anything anyway.

WOW....since I was asked to respond I shall.

I often get asked by a younger gal if I can help get her into the business. I ask her why she wants to do this and if she says "the money", I tell her I don't think that escorting is a good match for her. Then I tell her "if you hate kids, don't drive a school bus, if you can't read, then don't be a librarian, and if you hate sex....then for god's sake don't become a provider!"

But its more than just having a robust libido. Being a fuck machine might make you a good candidate for the big screen but it won't do you well in the real life world of escorting. You have to have passion for seeing somebody get off. You have to want get them off. And you have to be willing to participate to the fullest. Being a great provider is an art, and has more to do with with you bring to the table than what you look like. Its the twinkle in the eye and the initial nervous tension. Any idea of envelope should fade away within the first 5 minutes because the focus is on the impending journey.

Now, how are you going to find the perfect provider so when you hand over the envelope you will feel totally satisfied, knowing you are going to get everything you want? Guess what? That will never happen. Perfection exists in a plane that we don't get to enter until after we have paid our dues on earth. The closest you are going to find is the perfectly imperfect. But the quest for the best is what keeps us going.

What I am trying to say here is this..... do your homework and read reviews so you don't get somebody who screws like a wet paper bag. You might also try saving your pennies and invest in a provider who is a little higher in terms of rates. Would you rather have 3 crappy encounters at 100 a pop or a great encounter at around 200? Most upscale girls are not clock watchers providing you are respectful and reasonable about the time. Also, maturity can be your friend. No slight to my sisters who are younger, but on average a mature provider is comfortable with herself and there because she wants to be, not because she HAS to be.

And lastly, like I said above, don't expect perfection because you might miss out on some great encounters. If you have a checklist when you walk in and expect everything on that list to be met then you miss out on some spontaneous passion that can happen. Give the gal a little bit of time to relax and feel you out before you have decided she is a dud. She knows she is being analyzed and judged right from the start and its not always easy for us to gracefully find our comfort zone with that.

Not sure if any of that helps but its from the heart. Maybe Kelsi will have better insight. Thank you again for your mention of me and I hope to meet you soon!
annie aka brick house

Wow. All I can say is well said to ALL of you including barebear3, blasphemy, and even the awesome brickhouse with whom I would spend time with just on her humor alone. I was honestly expecting some serious jabs at my response, but you 3 kept a open mind and help me out alot. Now let me answer everyone. 1st with barebear3. I always come well groomed, I am always clean and arrive on time and I always come with the exact donation that the provider requested. I am looking for always the TRUE GFE and the best part of me is that a great GFE I believe both people need to be pleased with the encounter and I get off big time when a woman is fully satisfied and I love it when a woman gets all wet and climax. I am 40 years old and I do agree with your math calculations concerning the age of the provider, however one of the providers that I spoke of was very young and she was very good. Go Krista Starr. So age does not determine how good you are but whether you really want to be a provider or not. This state of mind is not always easy to see in the review. I do my research and google these provider, however sometimes you really only get a good look at the face and not what the personallity is. No as for blasphemy. I am slightly new to this and I will tell you this much I am very glad that I got your opionion on this because I see your name pop up everywhere. You are a true vetern to the art and I appriciate your wisdom on this issue. With that being said my past has been a little checkered and like all of us I have been hurt from time to time. I got into this with NO emotion and little expectations, just to have some fun an meet new people. It has been quite the experience and I love ever bit of it. No I will not call my ex-wife. I have not been married for many of years and I like it that way. LOL. Despite my issues with some of the providers ALL of them have been extremly nice and good hearted just the same. The only thing I said was that I felt they did not enjoy what they were doing (at least not with me) and therefore did NOT turn me on. And last but not least the great and might Brickhouse. I was kind of expecting a thump on the head from you but you took the high road and for that I definitly cannot wait to meet you. you have a humor simliar to my own and that is why I requested your insight. I love what you said about perfection. It not about the end of the road but the journey that was the all the fun. Thank you all for everything you have made my day. Be good(not too good) and be safe.

Very good question Hornyguy, and IMO, you couldn't have gotten better replies than what you got from BH and Blasphemy. (Wait till you hear from Kelsie and/or Coyote, LOL!)

Good luck and welcome to the forum

Carolina
www.classycarolina.com

Wonderful advice by all!!!