Sexual UnReality: Fantasy and the Escort

The intricacies of a sexual relationship are things we’ve all tried to work out at one time or another.  We meet a girl, go on a few dates, get back home and wonder if we’re on the path towards a pearl necklace.  But we might not be wondering how that thought got in our head in the first place.  And when it comes to an escort, we might not be sure if that’s something we can bring up without having a nameless thug break our arm later in the night.

If there’s one thing porn has taught us, it’s that women love cum on their face, threesomes, being called sluts, poolside anal, fisting and double-dildo lesbian antics.  Porn is that fantasy world, like a filthy Lord of the Rings, where anything is possible.

On the other hand, if sitcoms and romantic comedies have taught us anything it’s that Renee Zellwegger is awful yet people will still bone her, best friends get drunk, have sex and fall in love all the time, sex “complicates” things and OMG It’s such a big deal if you kiss!

So how does the media we’re constantly exposed to go from a 16 year old girl’s idea of sex as popularized on Friends, a show that set the idea of sex between consenting adults back eons to a Caligula-like world of degrading excess and bizarre acts you probably never would have thought up on your own as seen in porn?  And how do you determine what you should or can do when you get down to it yourself?

The best answer is that sitcoms and porn are written almost exclusively by idiots.  There are probably a few intelligent people out there, but don’t hold your breath and don’t model your behavior on what they do.

Most women are not going to fall in love with you when you have sex, so nevermind the sitcom approach.  Conversely, there’s pretty much no reason for you to blow a load across her face unless she asked for it or you really dig that sort of thing.  Porn has convinced us it’s the normal thing to do while at the same time trying to convince you that every time a woman enters a room not only is she pantyless, she’s lubed up and ready to fuck and the man already has a condom on.  If porn were legit, every women on the street would be 5 minutes of conversation away from banging us all the time, which research says is rarely if ever true and has lead to more than one black eye.

Arguably, however, porn is a fantasy.  If you approach that way, as something that isn’t “real,” then this is where the escort experience can really be something for you.  An escort is a companion whose goal is to fulfill that fantasy for you.  No  stringers, no guilt, no worries about how it’s received and no need to feel that going down on a stiletto or tongue fucking an asshole is going to make you feel weird when you’re having dinner with grandma tomorrow. 

Many escorts offer services ranging from the girlfriend experience to every fetish under the rainbow.  They excel at being non-judgmental and expect you to have certain requests.  It’s their job, remember, you’re not going to offend them if you want to be tied up, give them a facial or have them bring a friend along as long as you’ve worked out the details ahead of time.  The escort isn’t expecting anything from you beyond some decent manners and her money.  So you don’t need to perform a certain way, do certain things or really put yourself out at all.  This is your fantasy, remember.